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10 Things To Know Before You Start Therapy

Let's level the playing field, things you may not be aware of or are unsure of.

1. Sometimes you're not going to like therapy

There will be those days or those sessions that you really

don't enjoy, maybe because it's brought up something you'd

rather have ignored, or your therapist has challenged you.

It's not uncommon for things to get worse before they get

better, but putting in the work will allow you to feel

better in the long run. Get through the discomfort and you

will find a much clearer space.

2. You don't have to stick with the first therapist you find

A first session is not a lifelong commitment. This is why I

offer the first session free, so you don't feel any

obligation, and you don't feel stuck to keep coming

back if we don't suit each other. Therapy is ALL about the

relationship, if it doesn't fit, shop around!

3. Think about your goals

Do you have goals for therapy? Don't worry if you don't,

many people come to therapy feeling stuck and unsure of

why or how to change it. Any good therapist will work

with you to help you figure it out. Remember, everyone

goes to therapy for a different reason, there is no right

or wrong.

4. You won't get big breakthroughs in every session

There will be times you have a big realisation but these

can be quite rare. Therapy is about small changes that

takes you toward a deeper understanding of yourself. That

'thing' you've been holding in for years needs some time

to untangle itself.

5. There will be times you don't like your therapist

And it is absolutely okay to feel that way sometimes.

Therapists will challenge you, make you think about things

you may not have wanted too, opened doors you'd glued shut.

In reality, you probably just don't like what they've

said or what they've made you think about.

6. You can ask your therapist anything

You can ask whatever you want, your therapist will

explain their boundaries.

7. Journaling after your session can be a good way to get

the most out of your time

Sometimes most of the work is done outside of the therapy

room, that time together brings up things that you then

process until your next session. It can help to take notes

or write journals after your session, it can help you

remember things and/or process.

8. You don't have to be unwell to start therapy

Therapy doesn't have to be reactive, it can be preventative,

or an early intervention to positive well-being. Therapy

can help you in all areas of your life and will give you

the tools to deal with future challenges.

9. You can write down what you want to talk about

Session times can fly past and although being in the

here and now in the room is important, when therapy is new

and you're mind is already full it can help you go through

the things that are important to you. You may not cover it

all, or find one thing covers multiple sessions and that's


10. Expect to talk about your history

Each of our childhoods, regardless of what they were like,

shape us into who we are as adults and at some point

it's likely to come up to help you understand the way

you are as an adult.

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