Let's level the playing field, things you may not be aware of or are unsure of.
1. Sometimes you're not going to like therapy
There will be those days or those sessions that you really
don't enjoy, maybe because it's brought up something you'd
rather have ignored, or your therapist has challenged you.
It's not uncommon for things to get worse before they get
better, but putting in the work will allow you to feel
better in the long run. Get through the discomfort and you
will find a much clearer space.
2. You don't have to stick with the first therapist you find
A first session is not a lifelong commitment. This is why I
offer the first session free, so you don't feel any
obligation, and you don't feel stuck to keep coming
back if we don't suit each other. Therapy is ALL about the
relationship, if it doesn't fit, shop around!
3. Think about your goals
Do you have goals for therapy? Don't worry if you don't,
many people come to therapy feeling stuck and unsure of
why or how to change it. Any good therapist will work
with you to help you figure it out. Remember, everyone
goes to therapy for a different reason, there is no right
4. You won't get big breakthroughs in every session
There will be times you have a big realisation but these
can be quite rare. Therapy is about small changes that
takes you toward a deeper understanding of yourself. That
'thing' you've been holding in for years needs some time
to untangle itself.
5. There will be times you don't like your therapist
And it is absolutely okay to feel that way sometimes.
Therapists will challenge you, make you think about things
you may not have wanted too, opened doors you'd glued shut.
In reality, you probably just don't like what they've
said or what they've made you think about.
6. You can ask your therapist anything
You can ask whatever you want, your therapist will
explain their boundaries.
7. Journaling after your session can be a good way to get
the most out of your time
Sometimes most of the work is done outside of the therapy
room, that time together brings up things that you then
process until your next session. It can help to take notes
or write journals after your session, it can help you
remember things and/or process.
8. You don't have to be unwell to start therapy
Therapy doesn't have to be reactive, it can be preventative,
or an early intervention to positive well-being. Therapy
can help you in all areas of your life and will give you
the tools to deal with future challenges.
9. You can write down what you want to talk about
Session times can fly past and although being in the
here and now in the room is important, when therapy is new
and you're mind is already full it can help you go through
the things that are important to you. You may not cover it
all, or find one thing covers multiple sessions and that's
10. Expect to talk about your history
Each of our childhoods, regardless of what they were like,
shape us into who we are as adults and at some point
it's likely to come up to help you understand the way
you are as an adult.